Comments on Jason Shaw's Seafront Diary: The long goodbye........

I want to thank you for having your say here, it ...

2009-11-09T19:00:39.453Z

I want to thank you for having your say here, it means a great deal that you have taken the time to do so. I also thank you for your words and offeres of support.

Getting over something like this has been very hard, I felt so down, so love, so utterly lost by the event because I dared to love some much, so completely and so openly.

Pants I feel for you, I send you thoughts and hugs, it's a long road out of this emotional mire, but in time you will, but you'll never forget.

Anne, as always thank you for your advice, just knowing you were there, in the first couple of days was a great comfort.

James, you know I value your friendship, we may not chat all the time, but I'll always be there for you just as I know you are for me.

Lucy, you were a stranger when you wrote those words, but are not any longer. Such wonderful words of advice and care which helped more than you could ever know and more than a simple thank you covers, but really I thank you very much.

I miss you so much Jason, I only wish you would ...

2009-10-30T13:53:18.109Z

I miss you so much Jason, I only wish you would come back to us, be able to talk, walk, share a joke with us. Hold our hands and drink our wine.

Enjoy this world again.

Jo

Ok, positivity is the way forward...things do get ...

2009-10-28T20:55:24.839Z

Ok, positivity is the way forward...things do get better but to quote pants 'none of this positive you will get over the hill bullshit. untill you get that passion for another man, you will be a very diffent personality'- this is wrong- you need togo and find you again before you start even think about being passionate about another.

You have to be positive, you need a reason to get up.

@pants, when dealing with grief you really should try counselling with someone who is a professional. They are impartial and will guide you through your thoughts and feelings.

It's not that friends and family don't want to give you the time its that they simp,ly don't know how to deal with your situation.

xxx happy thoughts ***

hello, this is not drama at all. its fact and i ap...

2009-10-26T16:39:39.116Z

hello, this is not drama at all. its fact and i apreciate the blog.

i have encountered a story which also deals with departure. my boyfriend died. i had the plans of moving to tennessee with him (from sydney australia)and my whole future orbited him. he, along with all of our goals are gone in a car crash.

if you are anything like me you will be extremely slow in getting this through your system. i will grieve for years and i have not been able to find anyone to confide in. everyone doesnt want, or have the time, to help me resolve and i am to emotionally crippled to come to a healthy resolve or seek mental help. its not abt talking to a mate, its about talking to someone who is as close to you as family that will put their time in to help out. i have not had this luxury.

i know i will carry on dreaming (fanticising) about ways in which i will die just so i dont have to deal with this extensive trauma. suicide isnt an option so lets see if fate wants me gone!

sorry about the morbid response but it is fact, just like your note. none of this positive you will get over the hill bullshit. untill you get that passion for another man, you will be a very diffent personality. nd you will recognise it too.

p.s. im not a crazy person, it is what my circumstances have done to my emotional state.

The drama! This is way too over the top. I'm w...

2009-10-19T21:46:38.550+01:00

The drama! This is way too over the top. I'm wondering where the violin music is.

I feel as if I'm intruding on something person...

2009-10-13T21:37:41.835+01:00

I feel as if I'm intruding on something personal and almost holy. Losing love is like that. But I could not read your post and go on as if I had not done so. I found you searching for information on a book I'd read recently - Gaven by J.C. Owens. I cannot think this was mere coincidence. Your pain bleeds through every word of your blog post and it is clear you are hemoraging. Your hopes and dreams have been shattered like a mirror dropped on concrete, leaving thousands of little nicks to your heart and soul behind.

But I did not just read this post, I read others and I see a man who is capable of hope in the midst of pain. You want to focus your hope on Matt, on love lost, but you are too strong to stay in this place forever. Even someone who only knows the bits you've shared in your blog can see that.

You are an amazing man, worthy of love and not at all stupid. That your love was given to someone incapable of appreciating it at this place in his life in no way devalues that love. It does not! Nor does it devalue you.

There is happiness and joy in your future, though you cannot fathom it now. Not a plattitude, truth for a man of your caliber.

My heart breaks for you, but I am confident that you will continue to fight for a future. If not with Matt, then without him, but one worth living - believe me. Yes, a stranger, but a fellow human being who understands your pain. :)

If you need someone to talk to, email me. monroe dot lucy at gmail dot com Sometimes, talking to a stranger is the only thing you can do when your pain is too big for connection with your closer friends. I've done lay counseling for years...I'm used to listening. :)

Blessings and care,
Lucy

Jase, I agree you need to talk. Believe me you are...

2009-10-10T12:31:45.702+01:00

Jase, I agree you need to talk. Believe me you are in shock but and I'm sorry for saying this, it will pass. Head up, deep breath and face it head on and smile as only you know how. xx

Oh, hun, I'm so very very sorry. Honestly my h...

2009-10-09T22:39:39.997+01:00

Oh, hun, I'm so very very sorry. Honestly my heart goes out to you. You're in shock, that's why you feel this way. Honestly you really have to talk to someone, anyone. You can't keep this sort of thing to yourself in the real world.

I'm so very very sorry it's ended like this - please ring a mate now and just say something about this. You need to get it out into the open and then you'll be able to take a step forward. You've done all you can - honestly you can't do any more. You need to grieve, and talking is part of that.

Please put an entry on the blog tomorrow so we can know how you are and for tonight I'm sending you loads of hugs over the ether and thinking about you loads.

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